It happens here, too
The same issues of power and control can be present in the whole continuum of relationships, no matter a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity.
Unique Tactics of Abuse Related to Homophobia and Heterosexism
The dynamics of domestic violence in LGBTQ relationships are the same as those in heterosexual relationships. However, there are unique tactics abusers can use in an LGBTQ relationship that are related to how society treats the LGBTQ community (homophobia and heterosexism). This includes:
Threatening to “out” the victims if they have not publicly revealed their sexual identity, which could mean losing friends/family, not being accepted in their faith communities, and (depending on state laws) could mean losing their jobs and/or being evicted.
The abusive partner denying the abuse based on the idea that abuse only happens between a man and a woman (heterosexism bias in society)
Survivors fearing being blamed for the abuse. For example, society tends to punish people who do not meet traditional expectations of masculinity and femininity and may even blame those people for the abuse.
The survivor may even try to hide the abuse to prevent tarnishing the image of the LGBTQ community.
We serve people of all genders and sexual orientations. Call us today to speak to an advocate.
For LGBTQ specific resources, check out these great organizations:
Black Hills Center for Equality
Providing resources, community and advocacy for the LGBTQ community - based in Rapid City.
The Network/La Red is a survivor-led, social justice organization that works to end partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, SM, polyamorous, and queer communities. Rooted in anti-oppression principles, our work aims to create a world where all people are free from oppression. We strengthen our communities through organizing, education, and the provision of support services.
Contact their toll-free hotline: 1 (800) 832-1901